Some have gotten themselves so emotionally conditioned that they simply cannot endure the amount of drama that it would take to improve their lives, or anyone else’s. Thus, they rule themselves out from the improvements, opting to walk away from any chance of improvement, rather than to risk going through a hard emotional time to get there. They would rather endure a situation they hate than to have to endure the emotions involved in change—even change for the better. Did you hear what I said? Even change for the better.
They are slaves, then, to the status quo, and if the status quo is upset for them and they have no choice of maintaining it, their priority will not be in choosing which new option would make for the most excellent life, but which option makes for the least emotional strain. This is because, when it comes down to it, they do believe that the most excellent life is the one with the fewest upset emotions along the way.
So they will walk away from some very excellent possibilities that seem too emotionally expensive to them. And having walked away from all that, they will walk away from you, too, if you’re the sort to risk walking the gauntlet for something better.